Communicating with children should occur in both directions. You talk to him, he listens, and vice versa without any one of the intonation of his voice rising. There are effective ways to communicate with children without having to shout. Here's tips:
Message "I"
There is one expressive communication techniques for use with the child, his name is "my message". There are 3 key words in this technique, namely, I felt, when, and because.
When you are in a situation when the child asks for something now, you can use this technique, do not forget to use the three keywords, for example, "Mama (I) feel upset when you interrupt the work Mama, because I had to finish it before we go to the park play it. "
This technique is effective because it focuses on you and your feelings. This technique does not blame anyone, but it becomes a simple statement of your perspective on the situation at hand.
Emphasize kepositivan
One way to communicate effectively with your children is to develop in a positive sentence. Avoid the words "no" or "no" when talking with children. Rather than saying, "Do not throw toys on the floor," better to say, "Toys that his place in the toy basket." Although the changes are simple, the choice of words you use have a major impact on the reactions of children and the way he interacts with others.
Belanjar listen
Learning and practicing receptive communication is an important aspect to enhance parent-child interaction. Very important about what you say (or what is expressed in your child) be heard and understood. Listening to children is part of the receptive communication, and can be used as a way to understand children.
When you hear a child, stop all forms of activity you're doing and focus on your child. Kneeling, sitting, or a little lift on the bench for you and he are in an equal level. When the small talk, really listen. Ask yourself, "What is perceived by my child?" Then, repeat what you hear or what you think he is feeling (if his voice is less clear).
The key words similar to the first point, "you feel, because". For example, "You feel upset because you want to go to the playground right now when Mama stopped working." According to Terry Meredith, Speech and Language Pathologist from TLM Consulting, it is important for children to express their feelings through language. Parents also can tell the child that it is not a problem to feel some of the same thing at once.
Actions more clearly than words
Remember, that your thoughts are communicated through signs non-verbal. The way you carry yourself can say many things rather than words.
Your breath is very tight, wrinkled forehead, hands clenched, and then suddenly your child asks, "Mama mad?" then you replied with a frown, "Nah, Mama baseball mad." Your body language is clear show you angry and upset, but you actually say the opposite. When actions and words you do not sync, you send a double message to the child. You lied to feelings, but you show what you feel through your body.
