"You should be ashamed at yourself"
The word "shame" is a destructive emotion and often triggers a deep sense of guilt. Although each child was acting naughty, very important for them to understand why their behavior was wrong and he should understand that is normal for every human to make mistakes, and most importantly we all learned from that mistake.
"Because Mama said so!"
The kids respond to the rules when they see the reason behind it. Spend a few seconds to help them understand why, so they can see you as authority figures who deserve to be respected rather than as a dictator.
"Mama baseball cares what you want!"
Sometimes, when there are more than 1 child you have to satisfy, it is difficult to be able to give them all what they want. Sometimes, when they whine at the same time asking for different things, unconsciously, many people say these words to his son. However, it can imprint on the minds of children, because they will think that you do not care about their needs, and the impact they can not respect you. Remember, dealing with their emotions do not mean give up and meet their demand.
"Auntie asked for kiss, dong!"
You will not want to kiss other people automatically when someone said that they ask for your kiss, right? So did the kids. Respect their personal territory and give control over who can get their affections.
"Why do baseball could be like ..."
Comparing children with other children, whether siblings or classmates together means you instill in them the seeds of damage. Feeling weak and not well could trigger a child who will "explode" at a time and dissension among brothers. Rather than make them feel inferior compared to the advantages of others, he will praise the good things that he can, offer assistance in areas where they lack control.
"Wait till Papa / Mama comes home!"
Not only this will give the impression that that said it was the parents who fear their children, but also shows that you have no control over the situation. Saying this means underestimate your authority and eventually make the child think and ask ourselves, why do they hear you from the beginning?
"You're the greatest!"
Ironic indeed, not all the positive words that have a positive impact. Of course your child is the best, but too many non-specific praise will make it so it is not meaningful. Make praise specific.
"I do not fear. Nah see why, really!"
The ability of a child to feel safe and communicating feelings is very important for growth. Although you think this is sweet and good attitude, but actually such words implies that their emotions are not true. Listen and face their fears rather than belittle and make them ignore their feelings.
"You're so naughty!"
It is a very bad thing to label a child as "naughty / naughty / naughty", because they will think it is their identity and trying to justify you. Try to show your dislike for the attitude that no good will, not his son.
"Hurry, please! Mama live, Yes!"
Embedding issues that you would leave it is not recommended. Children do not know if you are really going to leave or not. Although actually you just kidding or terrify, aka an empty threat. Be patient waiting for him and realize the children very easily distracted mind, and find other ways to speed up preparations to move.
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